Lying sometimes can help your relationship, especially when you are not sure if telling the truth can live a lasting scare. It’s no surprise that both men and women in relationship rely on lying to some extent. They just do it differently and sometimes for different reasons.
Most women say they want their partner to be honest. Is this the truth? Can you keep a relationship up and running if you are telling the truth all the time?
Just imagine this; you brought your girlfriend home for the first time, to spend the night together. You have made a great effort to arrange and clean your home and especially the bedroom. You are proud about what you’ve done and ask your partner what she thinks or beliefs about your home.
And she responded “It is a little old fashioned… and something smells bad in here.” Ups! Ok.
You manage to pass through this awkward moment, then you start kissing each other, but you make a joke about… the size of your penis, and instead to hear the most-used reply: “hey, relax, size really doesn’t matter,” she tells you that her ex was quite huge. Sincerely, how would you feel?
If she were to say just two little lies, everything could be great, but now…
The truth is, telling a few lies can be one of the best ways to keep your relationship healthy.
So if you want to keep her happy, you need to have to learn how to lie a little – and lie convincingly. The trick is figuring out what she wants to hear.
1. To be quite honest women have more sensibility than men. So pay attention to her sensibility and don’t make bad jokes about other people (especially her family) or let her know you are about to do something very drastic. She will find you insensitive, and you will lose points. Try not to hurt your woman’s feelings even if you have to say a little lie from time to time.
2. Never mention your sexual past… especially if it was a good one. If your girlfriend asks you what it was like or how good your ex was, you can tell a lie if you have to. Say it wasn’t all that good. Don’t ever mention her. Even if what you’re saying is uncomplimentary, it will still have a negative effect.
3. When it comes to how she looks, and you have decided you want her to be your future partner, you have to make her feel that she is a WOMAN. Every woman has something beautiful, something sexy and attractive, and if you make her know that you find her attractive all the time she will be more confident, wilder and more passionate. Whenever she asks you how she looks, and you think something is not right, be wise enough not to tell her your true opinion, just tell her she looks okay but she can look better if this and that can be added or changed, telling her carelessly that you don’t like something at her, would frustrate her and she may become more inhibited.
Overall, lying is a bad thing to do. However, the little white lies don’t hurt anyone and are only meant as reassurance every now and then.
By: Sunday Olorunshola
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